Our Approach

Muganawa

Welcome to an exploration that intertwines ancient art with modern mindfulness.

Shibari, the traditional Japanese art of rope bondage, is not just about intricate knots and patterns; it's a dance of trust, communication, and connection. At its core, Shibari is a form of artistic expression, a deep communication without words, and a journey into the realms of trust and vulnerability.

Enter Muganawa - a unique and intentional approach to Shibari. Muganawa means "egoless rope" and embodies a philosophy of mindfulness, empathy, and focused connection. In Muganawa, the rigger (the one who ties) approaches the practice with a mindset of selflessness, prioritizing the experience, desires, and emotional journey of the bunny (the one being tied). This practice is about cultivating an experience that transcends physical ties, nurturing a space where exploration, empowerment, and self-discovery flourish.

Our goal with Muganawa is to initiate a paradigm shift in how Shibari is perceived and practiced. We aim to strip away misconceptions and reveal the true essence of Shibari as a form of deep connection, mutual respect, and emotional exploration. Through Muganawa, we aspire to transform Shibari from a misunderstood practice into a recognized form of intimate art and personal growth.

Join us in this journey as we unravel the depths of Shibari through the mindful practice of Muganawa. Whether you are a seasoned practitioner or new to the world of rope art, we invite you to experience this transformative practice and contribute to reshaping its perception. Together, let's explore the beauty, artistry, and emotional depth of Shibari.


A Vital Message on the Impact of Ego in Shibari and the Healing Power of a Holistic Approach

Dear Community,

In the world of Shibari and BDSM, the influence of ego can cast long shadows, not only on how this beautiful art form is perceived but also on the safety and well-being of those who practice it. An excess of ego – prioritizing personal desires or a sense of control over the mutual respect and empathy that should anchor these practices – distorts the true essence of Shibari. This not only endangers individuals but also skews public perception, painting a picture far removed from the art's core values.

In Shibari, the balance of power, trust, and consent is delicate. When ego takes the lead, this balance is disrupted, leading to potential physical and emotional harm. The practice, meant to be a consensual exploration of vulnerability and strength, can instead become a space where boundaries are overstepped, and the art form's integrity is compromised.

However, there is a path of healing and transformation, both for individuals and for the broader understanding of Shibari. By embracing a holistic approach – one that weaves together the physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of the practice – we can restore its true nature. This approach, embodied in the principles of Muganawa, encourages practitioners to engage with humility, empathy, and a deep respect for the shared journey.

Through this holistic lens, Shibari becomes more than just an art form; it transforms into a medium for healing, self-discovery, and profound connection. It's a practice where mutual respect and understanding are paramount, where each tie and knot is a conversation in trust and an exploration of inner landscapes.

Our mission is clear: to shift the perceptions of Shibari from a practice dominated by ego to one illuminated by holistic empathy and understanding. We believe that by fostering this change, we can not only ensure the safety and fulfillment of those who participate but also reveal the true beauty and depth of Shibari.

Join us in this commitment to reshape the narrative around Shibari, to promote a practice that is safe, respectful, and deeply healing. Together, let's untangle misconceptions and weave a new understanding, rooted in the authentic spirit of this extraordinary art form.

With respect and hope for a brighter future in our practice,

Master Pocketz

Bondage-Directed Somatic Medicine

Bondage-Directed Somatic Medicine (BDSM) is a lot like massage.

While some learn massage to enhance their erotic connections with others, some learn massage to practice it professionally and platonically. The massage itself isn’t seen as sexual, however, that energy can be applied if desired. It is however an intimate, vulnerable, and sensorial experience.

Bondage-Directed Somatic Medicine is a technical and sensorial practice that we took a long time to create. We have dedicated ourselves to practicing BDSM professionally and platonically as we incorporate it into our somatic coaching. 

Bondage-Directed Somatic Medicine is an egoless approach. We are here to serve and guide you through a sensorial experience. Our desire as practitioners is only to hold space for you. In this container, it’s about what you would like to feel and experience. Enthusiastic and informed consent is of the highest importance and you will not experience anything that you haven’t already agreed to.

The intention is to sink into these sensations and ask ourselves questions such as:

“Why do I want to experience these sensations?”

“What do I like about these sensations?”

“What need is being satisfied?”

And

“What am I learning about myself through these sensations?”

For more information on Bondage-Directed Somatic Medicine and our practices, you can check out our blog.

Foundations

Enthusiastic and Informed Consent

  • Enthusiasm

    Enthusiasm in consent means that all parties are genuinely excited and eager about the engagement or activity. It's characterized by a positive and willing attitude, where consent is not given out of obligation, pressure, or under duress, but from a place of genuine desire and interest.

  • Informed

    Being informed implies that all parties fully understand what they are consenting to. This includes a comprehensive awareness of the nature of the activity, potential risks, boundaries, and any other relevant information. It’s crucial that this understanding is based on clear, honest, and open communication.

  • Consent

    Consent is the clear, unambiguous agreement to engage in a specific activity. It must be given freely and can be withdrawn at any time. Consent is not just a one-time agreement but a continuous process, requiring ongoing check-ins and communication to ensure that it remains active and enthusiastic.

Core Values

  • Non-attachment

    In Buddhism, non-attachment is the practice of letting go of personal desires and worldly attachments, embracing the impermanent nature of life. This philosophy encourages individuals to find peace and inner liberation by releasing the grasp on emotions, objects, and ideas, leading to a deeper understanding of the self and the universe.

  • Metta (Loving-kindness)

    Metta is the cultivation of an unconditional and inclusive love towards all beings, free from selfish attachment. It encourages a boundless, warm-hearted feeling of goodwill and a sincere wish for the happiness and well-being of oneself and others.

  • Karuna (Compassion)

    Karuna is the empathetic response to the suffering of others, coupled with a genuine desire to alleviate it. It involves recognizing pain and misfortune in others and fostering a nurturing, understanding attitude towards them.

  • Mudita (Sympathetic Joy)

    Mudita is the practice of taking joy in the happiness and success of others, rather than feeling envy or jealousy. It promotes a pure, selfless delight in the achievements and good fortune of other people.

  • Upekkha (Equanimity)

    Upekkha is the cultivation of a calm, balanced state of mind, especially in the face of life's ups and downs. It involves maintaining a steady, unbiased attitude and equanimity in all situations, free from extreme reactions and partiality.

The 7 Pillars of Dominance

  • 1. Leadership

    A dominant is a leader, but never a tyrant. But to lead requires understanding, and understanding requires humility.

  • 2. Pride

    A dominant has pride, but never arrogance. But pride requires dignity, and dignity requires humility.

  • 3. Respect

    A dominant commands respect, but never fear. But respect requires serenity, and serenity requires humility.

  • 4. Strength

    A dominant employs strength, but never force. But strength requires knowledge, and knowledge requires humility.

  • 5. Constructive Criticism

    A dominant offers constructive criticism, but never derides. But criticism requires insight, and insight requires humility.

  • 6. Receiving

    A dominant receives, but never takes. But receiving requires giving, and giving requires humility.

  • 7. Completion

    A dominant completes, but never tries to alter. But to complete one must be able to see what is there, not what is missing, and this most of all requires humility.

  • Noblesse Oblige

    “The inferred responsibility of privileged people to act with generosity and nobility toward those less privileged.”

    If a dominant is the center of a submissive’s universe, it is because the submissive thinks so, not because the dominant does.

    No one is respected, let alone obeyed, just because.

    The truth of the matter is that owning is at least as much work as being owned.

    – J. Mikael Togneri –

The Rights of a Submissive

  • You have the right to be treated with respect.

    Not only do you have this right, you have the right to demand it. Being submissive does not make you a doormat or less of a person than anyone else. The word "submissive" describes your nature and in no way diminishes you as a human being. It is your right to choose who earns your submission, and it is your right to take your submission away.

  • You have the right to be proud of who you are.

    Being a submissive is nothing that should ever bring you shame or feelings of reproach. Your submissive nature is a gift and should always be a source of pride and happiness.

  • You have the right to feel safe.

    Being a submissive should not make you feel afraid, insecure or threatened. Submission is not about living on the edge or flirting with fear. In any situation, you should feel safe, or there can never be a true surrender to the exchange of control.

  • You have a right to your emotions.

    Your emotions come from you and they are just as valid as anyone else’s. You have a right to them. Those feelings, whether positive or negative, make you who you are and depressing them will only bring unhappiness.

  • You have the right to express your negative feelings.

    Being submissive does not make you an object that no longer has negative thoughts or concerns. Your concerns are real and you have ever right to express them. If something doesn’t feel right, bothers you, makes you feel bad or you just plain don’t like something, say so. Failing to express your negative feelings could give the mistaken impression that you are pleased or satisfied with something that is not pleasurable or agreeable, so please speak up!

  • You have the right to say NO.

    Being submissive does not take away your right to have dislikes or negative responses to things. If something is happening or about to happen that you feel strongly opposed to, never be afraid to say no. Your partner shouldn't attempt anything you haven't vocally and enthusiastically consented to.

  • You have the right to expect happiness in life.

    Being submissive is not tantamount to being miserable, suffering or a life of despair. Your submission should bring you joy, peace and fulfillment. If it doesn't, then something is wrong.

  • You have the right to have input in a relationship.

    You are an active partner in any relationship you enter and have every right to contribute to it. You are submissive, not passive. A relationship that doesn't include your needs, thoughts, hopes and desires is not one you should be in to begin with. This applies to friendships, partnerships and D/s relationships.

  • You have the right to belong.

    Being submissive greatly involves the feeling of belonging. Many submissives have expressed that it was in discovering their submissive nature that they felt as through they "belonged" for the first time in their lives. You belong to the lifestyle and will eventually belong to "The One". It's in that relationship you should find the final fulfillment of "belonging" at last.

  • You have the right to be loved and to love.

    Anyone who tells you that love doesn't fit into a D/s relationship has never experienced the fulfillment of all it truly can be. Submissives are by nature loving and needing of love and have every right to expect this to be a part of their lives. It takes love to bring your submission into full bloom, so don't settle for less.

  • You have the right to be healthy.

    Health involves your physical, mental and emotional well-being. Any relationship, D/s or otherwise, that causes you to suffer physically, mentally or emotionally beyond your limits, is abuse. There is no place for abusive behavior in a D/s relationship and it's up to you to make sure those lines are not crossed.

    Being a submissive does not give anyone the right to harm or injure you in any way. The D/s community will stand behind you if you should encounter such a situation but you are the one who has to make them aware before they can help.

  • You have the right to practice safe sex.

    Not only is this a right, it's a duty to yourself and others you may come into contact with. Sexually transmitted infections can have serious long term effects on a person's life, and they must be a concern to any sexually active person. Safe Sex is something you have the right to insist upon and protecting yourself should never be discouraged by anyone who really has your best interests at heart. Safe Sex can include, but is not limited to: screening potential partners, regular pap tests, the use of contraceptives, dental dams, and condoms.

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